I recently heard someone tell a story that I thought was very useful. It is believed to be an old Native American story, but there may be versions of it in many different cultures. The story is about a grandfather and his grandson. The grandson is telling his grandfather about a fight he had with a friend. He is very angry and wants to hurt the friend in some way - exacting revenge.

The grandfather listens carefully and then relates a story that is similar from his childhood. He tells the boy that he has felt the same way and then, he goes on to say that he believes we all have two wolves who live inside us. One wolf is resentful and wants revenge. The other wolf is loving and wants to be loved.

The grandfather explains that even though he is getting old, the two wolves inside him continue to fight with eachother. The little boy thinks about this for awhile and then asks his grandfather; "which wolf wins?" The grandfather smiles at him and answers; "the one I feed."

Another way of expressing this concept is to say that what we focus on, expands. What do we focus on? Who are the wolves that fight inside us and are we feeding the right one? Are we feeding the one that will get us to the experience we want in life?

If we want a life that is not too busy or overwhelming, we need to stop feeding the wolf that takes on too many commitments.

The wolves don't go away. The process is constantly unfolding. Which wolf do you want to feed today?